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22 Things a Woman Must Know: If She Loves a Man With Asperger's Syndrome
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Overview
A woman in love with a man with Asperger Syndrome (AS) may interpret his difficulties with communication and socialization as a lack of interest in the relationship. He may vacillate between being gentle and caring to seeming cold and distant. This book shows how to overcome these difficulties and maintain a loving relationship with an AS partner. |
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Pages 112
Dimensions: Length: 0.5" Width: 5.25" Height: 8.25"
Weight: 0.3 lbs.
Binding Softcover
Release Date May 15, 2009
ISBN 1849058032
EAN 9781849058032
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 | Want to know when the Man with Asperger's companion book will be out? Nov 8, 2009 |
This is a great book for women who are able and willing to 'give their all' to their guy. Personally, I am a woman married 15 years to a man JUST diagnosised...though we knew something was 'up'. I am also a brain injury survivor, with the memory of burned toast.
It seems to me, that a book that would (review) what the Asperger's person needs to work on (more) would be good. It bothers me that the book basically states 'this just is the way it is'. I have been working hard on my own stuff in the five years since my injury--if I hadn't put something in place, I would still be in the 'drool pool' and unable to speak/write or walk.
I like the book---he actually READ it. That was one thing. But it seems to be more a road map for ME than for HIM--guess the title is true to form... but still... | | |  | Not helpful if you need a guidebook Aug 9, 2009 |
There really is a dearth of literature to provide helpful guidance to the woman who has discovered her husband has Asperger's Syndrome. So I belive that publishers are rushing texts into print to capitalize on this shortage. There is clearly a need and a market for self-help literature, in part because there is so little help from a couples therapy approach. This book should have found a life as a well edited magazine article. But the content is too thin to have merited life as a book with a cost over the approximate cost of a Psychology Today issue. The 22 observations have varying applications - some to single women and some to married women.
Just read the index for free and get the substance of the book. | | | | Let's be honest here. Jul 31, 2009 |
Yes, there are some very attractive, brilliant and intriguing men out there who also have Aspergers, and they can make the sweetest dates in the world. But the majority of women, NT or not, who marry an aspie man end up having one or more children with some form of autism *and* being the de facto sole caretakers and coordinators of the household. Most of these women will end up with major depression and one or more autoimmune diseases from never having their own light reflected back at them as time goes on living with someone who is almost completely unreciprocal but who is supposed to be your life partner.
Books such as this one and "Going over the edge" by Kathy Marshack are lifelines for such women because leaving their marriages tends to be logistically, emotionally and economically insurmountable. (Try doing it with a special needs child, depressed, economically stretched and socially isolated, Cassandra.)
But I have a problem with publishers who aim to present the books of these authors as rah-rah solutions, or as how-to-have-a-successful-marriage guides. These are books on how to cope with a seriously challenging and dehumanizing life situation. And they are written red flags to those who haven't yet gone to the altar or had kids. Want the boiled-down version? Here it is:
***You can have a decent life with a man with Aspergers. Just do not expect anything from the marriage and be prepared to be the one doing all of the giving and most of the work. Make your own friends, because he may not have any and is likely to either avoid yours or behave strangely in front of them. Focus on how unique he is, how cute and smart and quirky he can be. Strive to understand the way he looks at the world. Be willing to teach him and explain things. Every day.***
Does this sound like a success story to you? It isn't. If it were, these authors wouldn't have poured their guts and knowledge into books to get the word out. And thank heavens that they've done so.
(And yes, Aspie guys can be as giving as the next person, sometimes moreso. The difference is that in marriage and affection you will need to tell them what to do, when and how to do it. (i.e. "You have to sleep with me once in a while. I need you to comfort me when something really bad has just happened. You have to acknowledge me when we're in the same room / eat with me for some meals", etc.) ...Then you will need to tell them again a few days later. For years. (Readers of publisher's reviews read: "But don't give up! You want to make your marriage work, don't you??") | | |  | Written with true honesty Jul 2, 2009 |
This book is a much needed addition to literature on adults with Asperger
Syndrome. Written from the perspective of a woman with Asperger Syndrome,
Rudy Simone, describes the needs of Neurotypical women and Asperger women
alike, who want more romance with their Asperger partner or spouse. With
true honesty and beauty, Simone's words are without a doubt a book every
woman who loves someone with Asperger's should have on hand.
| | | | If You Love An Aspie, This Book Can Help Jun 25, 2009 |
If you love an Aspie, you owe it to yourself to read this book, whether the Aspie you love was diagnosed years ago, recently, or has yet to be diagnosed.
Every word in it rings true, and is useful. The author is clinically precise in her descriptions of the drawbacks and advantages of loving a man who is also an Aspie, wonderfully complex and maddening at the same time. She also gives good advice about taking care of your own needs, which you must do, as it is essential to take care of yourself when the the maddening aspects occur (and they will).
I wish I had read it years ago. | | | Write your own review about 22 Things a Woman Must Know: If She Loves a Man With Asperger's Syndrome
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